When my middle daughter was beaten severely by a former love interest several years ago, I wanted to hurt him BAD…just like he hurt my girl. Without going into the tiny details, she had fractures, teeth knocked out, and her face was so swollen I didn’t recognize her. As her Mom, I didn’t recognize my OWN DAUGHTER
I held onto the bitterness, hate, and resentment toward that man a long time. And it began to eat away at me. The day I decided that his actions would no longer destroy me was the first step in freeing my own self. I know what you’re thinking…”But what he DID!!…How can you…There is no way in hell I’d forgive that!”
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1. In forgiving him, I didn’t make it ‘ok’ that he beat up my daughter.
2. In forgiving him, it didn’t mean I wanted to be his friend or allow him in mine or my daughter’s lives.
3. In forgiving him, it didn’t mean I no longer sought justice.
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It meant that I let it go.
It meant I stopped drinking the poison of bitterness and anger.
It meant I released the infinite cycle of pain I was ruminating in.
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By holding on to unforgiveness, you aren’t punishing him/her for hurting you. Holding onto bitterness and anger is not going to make things better. It’s not going to teach “them” a lesson. However, if we forgive and truly embrace love, we heal a part of our spirit, our soul, and our body.
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Yes, sometimes it’s hard. But beautiful people, you can do hard things. The weak do not forgive. Forgiveness is definitely an attribute of the strong.
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You are loved. You are capable. You are enough. You can be compassion. You can be kindness. And…you can experience forgiveness.
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I love you.💙
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